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Committed Relationships - Ten Ways to Deepen and Build Committed Relationships
Are you in a long time relationship? Do you wish you had some guidelines to show you a direction for improvement?
People often debate in relationships what is "normal, and healthy". Below are some tips on things to strive for in your relationship. Remember that change is a process, not an event. An ideal relationship would encompass all the ten items below. However to expect perfection is unrealistic, rather choose one item and mutually agree to work towards it for at least 21 days. Once you have accomplished this then go on to another item.
Some couples find that they need a third party, a professional, to assit them in developing these practices. Do not hesitate to seek therapy, often couples wait too long to do so , and damage to the relationship is difficult to repair.
TEN WAYS TO DEEPEN AND BUILD A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP:
1. Be the partner that you want: Rather than criticizing and judging what is lacking in your
partner, make sure you are the person that you would want to be with. Act as you want to
be treated.
2. Give up expectations; set intentions instead.
3. Commitment and intimacy can deepen in times of uncertainty and confusion. Look upon these times as an opportunity to bond, learn and communicate.
4. Look at the other person with and through loving eyes.
5 .Live in the present. Neither the past nor the future exists.
6. Seek to share rather than to get.
7. Let your actions be guided by your inner voice. Let each of you relate freely and openly.
8. Forgive errors ... join love with reason and become an observer. Correct errors. Forgive them and move on. Both be willing to accept that errors will occur, and each gladly correct them.
9. Relationships teach us but they must be worked on. Only then can they be a source of information and awakening.
10. Think of yourself and your partner as loving spirits, choosing to live for a time in human form, rather than humans trying to evolve.
Debra Joy Goldman MS LMHC (561) 844-1340
Debra offers a range of therapy options to assist you in identifying and reaching your life happiness. Visit her website at http://www.debrajoygoldman.com
Now you are off to a good start. For more about maintaining these changes, getting through challenges, and responding to the mental and emotional changes that come along with the process, check out my website: http://www.debrajoygoldman.com or call me at 561-844-1340. Recognized as a leading counselor and educator for the past twenty years, in the South Florida area, Debra Joy Goldman specializes in counseling individuals, couples and facilitating groups The mother of three adult children and grandmother of two, Debra and her husband (her high school sweetheart) have been married for 33 years and live in South Florida with their cat Leo (who really runs the house).
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